Anna's Thoughts on Income Tax

In the third week of August, I told Anna that, we had filed his income tax returns. At first he was uninterested. But, as I described the new form and the details that need to be filled in this year's new format, he showed some interest.

He then asks, "How does the government expect a person like me to file my income tax returns?"

My immediate response, with no real thought is, "Anna, they expect me to file your returns."

Really?  Could that possibly be true?  Does our IT department expect a child or guardian of an 80+ citizen to file returns on their behalf? I don't know.

I wonder how the super senior citizens of our country, many of then suffering from physical and/or mental limitations, are supposed to file their IT returns? Is there an automatic assumption that the 80+ population will have a child or guardian who will take on this responsibility and file IT returns on their behalf?  Even tho', the super senior citizen, can themselves no longer (mentally or physically) really file or validate their own returns? We need to raise these questions with our CAs (I have).

Anna goes on to say that after a certain age, or given a certain diagnosis of illness, the elderly should be exempt from filing taxes.  Or even paying taxes at all, for they have paid taxes for many years while working.

I think that his brain is working in overdrive mode!

Then Anna asks, "What happens when a person dies?"

Again, I say without thinking, "Then you are supposed to tell the IT department."

He looks at me strangely and says, "How can I tell them when I am dead!"

I laugh it off and say, "A child or guardian is expected to tell the IT Department. So I will inform them for you after you die."

Anna takes 3-4 days to absorb this conversation.  Then out of the blue, one evening he says, "Sangeeta, you are brilliant!"

Smiling, I ask "Why?"

He says, "You have filed the Income Tax Returns of 5 people!"

He is right.  About filing the IT Returns of 5 people, not the brilliant part!

Oscar Wild Sculpture, Merrion Square
Gardens, Dublin, Ireland

Then suddenly he says, "Oscar Wilde was once asked, What is the most detailed & intricate plot you have ever written?"

I wonder why he is changing the topic, and wait to hear more.

After a pause he says "Oscar Wilde responded to this question by saying My Income Tax Returns!!"

I laugh and ask, "Anna, is that true?"

Anna says, with a great deal of confidence, "Yes, of course."

I say, "Anna, no wonder Oscar Wilde was considered brilliant!!"

I come home and look up this Oscar Wilde pearl of wisdom.  I can not find any reference to this quip.



My conclusion is that it is a clever adaptation that sounds like vintage Oscar Wilde.

It is the years of reading, and the inherent Murthi humour being put to good use!!!

Our Parents Need Time Too. Indian Companies, are you Listening?

http://news.bbc.co.uk

I smile as I read the recent news of companies like Microsoft, Netflix and Adobe, instituting inclusive (and what to most Indians will look like very benevolent) leave policies for new parents.  

Unlimited / Generous Paternity Leave Announced

These companies have recognized that there is a need for both parents, male and female, to take time off from work when they have a new baby.  Or adopt one.  Or become a foster parent.  They recognize that to retain highly valued talent, they need to help them tide over the critical 1^st year of a baby by being very generous with the leave that they can avail.  And they have made these policies inclusive by enabling men to take time off when they have a new baby in the family. 

There are of course, Indian companies or subsidiaries of MNCs who have paternity leave that range from a pathetic 2 days to a couple of weeks.  But the companies that are listed above have taken this to another level. 

And this makes me smile.  

Finally, diversity is not all about exclusive programs for women, but inclusive programs (albeit skewed more towards women).  Will this policy attract and retain good people? On the face of it, yes. And please, do give them a chance. I believe that it will work and it is something to celebrate.

Paternity Leave is great.  But what about Elder Care Leave?

July 2015: Anna sleeps in Delhi heat and humidity 

during the 5 hours it took @CGHS 

to apply to transfer his card to Delhi

Then I start thinking about the care of the elderly.  I have often said that looking after an elderly person, and that too one with a degenerative disease, like my father’s, is akin to looking after a child.  

Whereas with a child, parents live with the joy and hope that soon their child will grow and become more independent, there is no such joy and hope for a person who looks after an elderly patient parent/s.  The parent/s will become more frail and dependent till finally death takes them.  A child will live with parents for many, many years but an elderly patient parent will be with us for only a short time.

So why, I ask, have no companies, or governments for that matter thought of instituting “Parent Care Leave”? Leave that I could have availed to look after my father, who has Parkinson’s Disease, Dementia, & Diplopia, vs giving up a full time job.  Leave that I could have used to ensure that I spend quality time with my father vs spending ~4 hours travelling each day to and from Gurgaon.   Leave that I can avail when my father is rushed to hospital and needs care.  Leave that would enable me to manage the financial constraints that not earning puts on a family, especially when I am the only earning member.

Using Parent Care Leave

Since 2011, I have not had a vacation. All my leave days have been used in visiting and caring my father when he was with my siblings and then looking after him when he moved to Delhi in 2014. 

Anna (in yellow) with his younger brother
(KV Krishnamurthy in blue),
Anna's housekeeper & attendant (in green)

In 2014, I brought my father to Delhi to take over care-giving from my siblings. I had to set up a separate, fully functional flat for him.  I was working a full-time job then and had to take PL (privileged leave)and Casual Leave (CL) to fly to Bangalore, pack up and transport his household to Delhi.  Not to mention the many hours after work and two marathon weekends, unpacking and setting up the house.  Hours and days finding him household help, attendants, doctors, therapists, et al. 

I couldn’t relax on a weekend or take a day’s vacation, as I needed the leave to fly him to Delhi, settle him in, and reserve some days for potential hospital stays.  And there were hospital stays, midnight emergencies, hallucinations and delusions that had to be managed on the phone.  All while spending a minimum of 12.5 hours on travel and work.  Not to mention looking after my home and my husband’s elderly parents, who are 91 and 80 respectively.

So, in the end I stopped working.  There was no other choice. There is only so much I could do in a 24-hour day.  And when the choice came down to working or looking after 2 homes and 3 elderly people, I chose care-giving.  It was a no-brainer. 

I thought that I would take a few months off, settle things down and then re-join the workforce.  Wishful thinking, at it’s best!  A new job, meant new commitments, proving myself over again, longer hours, travel, etc.  

Added to this, is the fact that with the elderly there is no predictability.  An upset stomach can send someone to the hospital and time to recover could be 5 times longer than it is for someone in their 50s.  So in the end I decided against a full-time job.  I decided to do something that would give me energy - consulting in areas of interest and coaching organization leaders.   

Tho’ this is my unique challenge, I believe that parent care is going to be a real problem in a few years.  The great “demographic dividend”, that we talk about so proudly today, will become our country’s super senior citizens in 35 years.  Already, nine states in India have lower fertility rates than the highly developed countries of the world i.e. lower than 2.1 which is considered the replacement rate.  Our old age dependency ratio will nearly triple from 13% in 2000 to 32.8% in 2050 i.e. 1 of every 3 working Indians will have to take care of an elderly person by 2050.

While the government is still wrapping its arms around how to get the maximum benefit from the great demographic dividend, I hope they will think of changes to our healthcare and wellness programs to manage a large elderly population. 

But, let’s not leave everything in the hands of a government.  Can some forward-thinking company look at how to retain some of its most experienced people (normally in their 50s), by helping them take time off to look after the same parents who got leave when the child (me & you) were born?

I am asking for the institution of Parent Care Leave. 

That’s not outrageous.  It’s just reality.

First published in The Quint on 14th Aug 2015